Birgit sometimes gets a little upset with me when I don't like to talk long on the Phone...
Fact is, I really don't like talking on the Phone, never have. I like to see peoples faces, their expressions, especially their eyes. I watch the shifting of body position, a hundred little movements people make when they have a conversation. On the phone these are missing.
OK, on the phone many clues are still there to give the feelings of the other person. The pauses, sighs, the words they use, lots of clues! but I still don't like it..
But Birgit is a new level!!!
I'm English & she German, in normal conversation we speak a special mixture of the two languages. somethings are better said in one language, or the other. Sometimes German has a single 'nice' word for an English phrase, & sometimes English is better to describe a situation. This works most of the time. However, when things are important she drops into 100% German & I into 100% English. (People listening can be amazed that we appear to have two conversations running, in two languages).
So, on the phone where all the visual clues are missing & we are listening to each other in our second language. The subtle pauses, sighs, faster, slower, higher pitched, low etc etc to say 'Joke', 'Love' etc etc are missed. It's amazing how much difference this can make. So for a person who is natural 'phonephobic' it can be a nightmare..





